Why doesn’t he ask me out? If you’ve met a guy you’d like to date, but he hasn’t asked you out, here’s the number one way to change that: Smile!
When a guy is looking for a date, he isn’t necessarily looking for a good friend or someone who shares his interests at work. He’s looking for happiness.
So, look and act happy.
I know, that’s easier said than done. Long term, you need to be a happy person to look and act genuinely happy.
Short term, you can find things — even small, fleeting things — to be happy about. Just look around you each day and ask, “Is there something funny here? Is there something cute, or interesting, or unusual, or fun?”
Then, take a closer look at it. Get interested.
Next time you see your potential Mr. Right, you’ll have something happy and interesting to talk about.
Smiling is an important part of that. Not a fake, pasted-on smile that never reaches your eyes, but a genuine smile.
See what happens in these two segments of a Rachel Ray show. “Tough Love” star and relationship adviser, Steve Ward, helps an attractive young woman attract the right men.
In part one, Steve meets and videos a young woman who’s successful, but hasn’t found love… yet. With the help of three eligible bachelors, Steve analyzes what the woman could do to attract dates.
In part two, the men talk directly with the young woman. Steve makes a good point about the difference between being intimidating and not being approachable.
Especially if you’ve had disappointments in the past, you might learn a lot from what Steve and the guys say in this video: Listen more, and smile.
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Do you want a marriage proposal? Even if you haven’t met Mr. Right yet, start by visualizing your engagement and wedding.
- If you aren’t already in a relationship, imagine yourself meeting the man of your dreams. You feel that magic inside, or that inner voice that tells you, This is the one. Hold onto that image. That marriage proposal could arrive sooner than you expect it to.
- Look at engagement rings. Decide which rings you like best. Imagine Mr. Right getting down on one knee to propose to you, and how you’ll feel when that happens.
- Review videos of great marriage proposals. Visualize how it will be when you’re proposed to.
- Start collecting pictures of wedding gowns you love. Keep them in a folder or even a scrapbook, so you can look at them often, imagining yourself wearing a wedding gown as you exchange your wedding vows.
- Keep a file of wedding reception ideas. Will you be in a hotel ballroom, a reception center, or barefoot on a beach? Select music you’d like. Think about the food: Do you want an elegant and impressive five-course dinner, or a burgers-and-tacos meal that everyone will enjoy?
Focus on how you’ll feel when it’s really happening. It’s that “Law of Attraction” stuff, and it works.
One of the first things to do is this: Order a wedding cake topper. I’m not kidding.
When it arrives in the mail, imagine yourself as the bride. Do this every couple of weeks, to reinforce your intention to attract a man who will love, appreciate, treasure and marry you.
If you can only afford an inexpensive wedding cake topper, it’s okay. However, the best one will be the cake topper you actually plan to use.
It’s a small investment, but an important one.
Find other ways to support your visualizations, and your confidence that you will get the ring, and you will be in a “happily ever after” marriage.
That may include “chick flicks” that show couples overcoming odds to be together. Classic romantic movies include The Rainmaker (the Katherine Hepburn and Burt Lancaster one), Sleepless in Seattle, and Serendipity.
If you love historical romances, few surpass the Colin Firth Pride and Prejudice mini-series, and the related movie, Lost in Austen.
Never give in to pessimism, or accept the cynical attitudes of people around you. There really is a “Mr. Right” for you. If you haven’t met him yet, he’s looking for you as eagerly as you’re watching for him.
Visualizations can help. Keep renewing them and building on them. You may be surprised how quickly you’re in a photo with the caption, “Girl gets ring.”