How Will I Get Him to Propose?
'Getting' him to propose is as easy as herding cats.
If you’re wondering how you’ll get him to propose, stop right there.
The fact is, you can’t get him to do anything he doesn’t want to. Not now. Not after you’re married. Never.
You can’t get him to stop wearing his “lucky socks” to the game. You can’t get him to take out the trash. You can’t get him to quit talking to an old girlfriend. And, you can’t get him to propose.
Instead of asking “How will I get him to propose?”, you should ask, “What’s preventing him from proposing?”
You need to help him overcome the barriers that prevent him from doing what he really wants to do: Marry you.
The answer may be more deeply hidden than you expect. It’s not just his fear of commitment. It’s why he’s worried about commitment, about marriage, and maybe about you.
There are things he’s worrying about, and they’re buried deep in his subconscious. He couldn’t even tell you this stuff if you asked him… unless you already knew what to ask.
The wrong questions will drive him further away. In fact, it could lead to a really ugly conversation that leaves both of you angry, and perhaps even makes you break up, permanently.
Before you throw in the towel, or — worse — try to pry into his tangled logic about marriage, please go watch the free Girl Gets Ring video. Yes, it really is free, and it’s not a sales pitch. T. Dub Jackson gives you enough useful information to make a big difference in your relationship right away. (It’s not some stupid teaser. This is information that other people charge big bucks for, and he’s giving it away. He’s launched a “million marriage crusade,” and he seriously wants to help a million couples get married.)
Your guy probably wants to get married as much as you do. He’s probably as deeply in love as you are, whether he’ll admit it or not.
He’s trapped by stereotypes, insecurities, and things he needs to hear from you, but he doesn’t know what to ask.
The free Girl Gets Ring video will explain that to you, and show you exactly what to do next.
Before you watch that video, pour yourself a cup of coffee. Grab a pen and some notepaper. It’s a long video and you’re going to want to take notes. I don’t mean you should take notes… I mean, as soon as you hear what T. Dub explains about men and getting him to propose, you’re going to practically climb across the keyboard to learn more. You’ll want to take notes… lots of them. (I took six pages of notes, the first time I watched that video.)
Yes, it takes a guy to explain this stuff. No woman is likely to figure this out on her own. Seriously. The logic… it sort of makes sense, when you look at it, but really… nobody tells you this stuff about men, marriage and commitment.
T. Dub is going to explain what’s buried under all that macho nonsense about “fear of commitment” and staying single. Once you really understand this, you won’t even need to ask your guy what it’ll take to get him to propose.
You’ll already have the answers. You’ll already know exactly what to say, and how to assure him so your man is comfortable proposing to you. It’ll seem like the logical thing to do, and like you read his mind.
There’s nothing manipulative about this. Forget playing games or acting “hard to get” or giving him an ultimatum. Those don’t work.
The Girl Gets Ring approach is based on 100% honesty… and it’s that honesty that will get you both to the altar, together, and taking your next step to “happily ever after.”
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Fear of Commitment
Does marriage set off his 'fear of commitment' alarms?
Fear of commitment seems to be a huge problem preventing marriage. It’s not just guys who have commitment issues. Women worry about commitment, too.
Let’s start with the stereotypes, and how damaging they can be.
Men fear commitment
One reason men fear commitment is social conditioning. Seriously, they get all kinds of bad advice (and terrible role models) from TV shows and movies.
Remember that movie, The Bachelor? All those brides chasing the character played by Chris O’Donnell… that’s an iconic image, and one of many that reinforce the idea that men are running from marriage. That’s what Real Men do… right?
Wrong.
However, that movie (preview below) is such a classic example of the stereotype presented to men, it’s worth studying.
Movies like that — where your date probably identifies with the handsome male lead — reinforce everything he’s ever learned about looking like “a real man” by acting-out his fear of commitment.
It’s not healthy, and it can be difficult to overcome if you don’t understand the real roots of commitment phobias.
Fear of commitment in women
Women fear commitment, too. Men don’t have a monopoly on marriage phobia.
Women worry that he’s not the right kind of man for a successful marriage. Is he really read to be faithful to you, long term? Will that “seven-year itch” mean divorce? Will yours be one of the 41% to 50% of first marriages that fail? (Or, if this is a second or third marriage for either of you, will yours be among the 60% to 74% that end in divorce?)
With women, the fears aren’t only about marriage. They also worry about children: Whether he wants any, and how responsible he’ll be, as a dad.
Most women don’t want to press the issue of children, but it’s always there, and they worry that Mr. Right won’t agree with their family goals. It’s an unspoken issue that can cause tremendous fear of commitment in women.
It’s not that women don’t want to commit to a marriage; they’re simply afraid they’ve picked the wrong guy. It’s made worse when he’s following the stereotype, acting phobic about popping the question or even talking about the future. The bride-to-be is afraid to ask important questions like: Do you want children, and how many? Do you expect me to continue working, or be a stay-at-home mom?
That’s the tip of the iceberg.
The truth is, everyone is afraid of commitment. They’re worried about picking the right marriage partner. They’re also worried about selecting the best subject to major in, in college. They’re concerned about saying “yes” to the right job offer, and buying the right house.
These are all long-term commitments, and a person would be a little crazy not to be anxious about making the right decision.
However, those commitment worries will linger until you realize what’s behind them. There are very specific ways to overcome commitment phobias, and they’re simple to solve… if you know what to look for, what questions to ask, and the kinds of answers each of you need.
That’s where the Girl Gets Ring system comes in. The good news is, you don’t need to spend a cent. You’re going to discover some important answers to commitment issues in the free — no commitment — video lesson at this link: Girl Gets Ring.
Watch what T. Dub Jackson explains in that video. I think you’re going to be absolutely amazed. You’ll also find a hefty dose of relief when you see how simple it is to overcome his fears of commitment as well as your own.
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When Will He Propose?
When will he propose?
If it doesn’t happen in the first year and a half, the answer may be: Never.
Here’s advice from a panel of men — single, taken, and married — about marriage proposals. I think it’s a good range of attitudes, to help you understand your man and whether or not it’s a serious relationship.
In this discussion, they also talk about what not to do — like an ultimatum — if you’re wondering when (and if) he’ll ever propose to you.
However, before you take that advice seriously, here’s something else to look at. Recent research has found some unexpected core issues that prevent wonderful couples from reaching the altar.
Even if you’re in a long-term relationship of many years, and it seems hopelessly stalled, you can reach “happily ever after.”
Before you throw in the towel on your relationship (despite what’s said in the previous video), take a look at the free video presentation, Girl Gets Ring. It’s an actual lesson that could answer all your questions, right away. It’s not a short video, and — if you’re like me — you’ll probably want to take notes.
However, before you decide that the answer to “When will he propose?” is “Never,” you owe it to yourself and your relationship to see what T. Dub Jackson says in his Girl Gets Ring video.
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