How Will I Get Him to Propose?
'Getting' him to propose is as easy as herding cats.
If you’re wondering how you’ll get him to propose, stop right there.
The fact is, you can’t get him to do anything he doesn’t want to. Not now. Not after you’re married. Never.
You can’t get him to stop wearing his “lucky socks” to the game. You can’t get him to take out the trash. You can’t get him to quit talking to an old girlfriend. And, you can’t get him to propose.
Instead of asking “How will I get him to propose?”, you should ask, “What’s preventing him from proposing?”
You need to help him overcome the barriers that prevent him from doing what he really wants to do: Marry you.
The answer may be more deeply hidden than you expect. It’s not just his fear of commitment. It’s why he’s worried about commitment, about marriage, and maybe about you.
There are things he’s worrying about, and they’re buried deep in his subconscious. He couldn’t even tell you this stuff if you asked him… unless you already knew what to ask.
The wrong questions will drive him further away. In fact, it could lead to a really ugly conversation that leaves both of you angry, and perhaps even makes you break up, permanently.
Before you throw in the towel, or — worse — try to pry into his tangled logic about marriage, please go watch the free Girl Gets Ring video. Yes, it really is free, and it’s not a sales pitch. T. Dub Jackson gives you enough useful information to make a big difference in your relationship right away. (It’s not some stupid teaser. This is information that other people charge big bucks for, and he’s giving it away. He’s launched a “million marriage crusade,” and he seriously wants to help a million couples get married.)
Your guy probably wants to get married as much as you do. He’s probably as deeply in love as you are, whether he’ll admit it or not.
He’s trapped by stereotypes, insecurities, and things he needs to hear from you, but he doesn’t know what to ask.
The free Girl Gets Ring video will explain that to you, and show you exactly what to do next.
Before you watch that video, pour yourself a cup of coffee. Grab a pen and some notepaper. It’s a long video and you’re going to want to take notes. I don’t mean you should take notes… I mean, as soon as you hear what T. Dub explains about men and getting him to propose, you’re going to practically climb across the keyboard to learn more. You’ll want to take notes… lots of them. (I took six pages of notes, the first time I watched that video.)
Yes, it takes a guy to explain this stuff. No woman is likely to figure this out on her own. Seriously. The logic… it sort of makes sense, when you look at it, but really… nobody tells you this stuff about men, marriage and commitment.
T. Dub is going to explain what’s buried under all that macho nonsense about “fear of commitment” and staying single. Once you really understand this, you won’t even need to ask your guy what it’ll take to get him to propose.
You’ll already have the answers. You’ll already know exactly what to say, and how to assure him so your man is comfortable proposing to you. It’ll seem like the logical thing to do, and like you read his mind.
There’s nothing manipulative about this. Forget playing games or acting “hard to get” or giving him an ultimatum. Those don’t work.
The Girl Gets Ring approach is based on 100% honesty… and it’s that honesty that will get you both to the altar, together, and taking your next step to “happily ever after.”
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Fear of Commitment
Does marriage set off his 'fear of commitment' alarms?
Fear of commitment seems to be a huge problem preventing marriage. It’s not just guys who have commitment issues. Women worry about commitment, too.
Let’s start with the stereotypes, and how damaging they can be.
Men fear commitment
One reason men fear commitment is social conditioning. Seriously, they get all kinds of bad advice (and terrible role models) from TV shows and movies.
Remember that movie, The Bachelor? All those brides chasing the character played by Chris O’Donnell… that’s an iconic image, and one of many that reinforce the idea that men are running from marriage. That’s what Real Men do… right?
Wrong.
However, that movie (preview below) is such a classic example of the stereotype presented to men, it’s worth studying.
Movies like that — where your date probably identifies with the handsome male lead — reinforce everything he’s ever learned about looking like “a real man” by acting-out his fear of commitment.
It’s not healthy, and it can be difficult to overcome if you don’t understand the real roots of commitment phobias.
Fear of commitment in women
Women fear commitment, too. Men don’t have a monopoly on marriage phobia.
Women worry that he’s not the right kind of man for a successful marriage. Is he really read to be faithful to you, long term? Will that “seven-year itch” mean divorce? Will yours be one of the 41% to 50% of first marriages that fail? (Or, if this is a second or third marriage for either of you, will yours be among the 60% to 74% that end in divorce?)
With women, the fears aren’t only about marriage. They also worry about children: Whether he wants any, and how responsible he’ll be, as a dad.
Most women don’t want to press the issue of children, but it’s always there, and they worry that Mr. Right won’t agree with their family goals. It’s an unspoken issue that can cause tremendous fear of commitment in women.
It’s not that women don’t want to commit to a marriage; they’re simply afraid they’ve picked the wrong guy. It’s made worse when he’s following the stereotype, acting phobic about popping the question or even talking about the future. The bride-to-be is afraid to ask important questions like: Do you want children, and how many? Do you expect me to continue working, or be a stay-at-home mom?
That’s the tip of the iceberg.
The truth is, everyone is afraid of commitment. They’re worried about picking the right marriage partner. They’re also worried about selecting the best subject to major in, in college. They’re concerned about saying “yes” to the right job offer, and buying the right house.
These are all long-term commitments, and a person would be a little crazy not to be anxious about making the right decision.
However, those commitment worries will linger until you realize what’s behind them. There are very specific ways to overcome commitment phobias, and they’re simple to solve… if you know what to look for, what questions to ask, and the kinds of answers each of you need.
That’s where the Girl Gets Ring system comes in. The good news is, you don’t need to spend a cent. You’re going to discover some important answers to commitment issues in the free — no commitment — video lesson at this link: Girl Gets Ring.
Watch what T. Dub Jackson explains in that video. I think you’re going to be absolutely amazed. You’ll also find a hefty dose of relief when you see how simple it is to overcome his fears of commitment as well as your own.
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Dating and Marriage – Does He Want to Get Married?
When you’re dating with marriage in mind, you need to know if he even wants to get married.
Some men don’t. They’re more Mr. Never than Mr. Right.
In my opinion, your first date — or even before your first date — should start with a reality check: Ask him how he feels about marriage. (You can and probably should save the topic of children for later.)
Make it clear: You’re not asking if he wants to marry you. It’s a general question, like whether he plans to go to (or go back to) grad school.
Maybe he’s eagerly looking for the right woman. Or, that could be in his plans for two or three years from now.
That’s a good starting point.
However, in some cases, the guy has no interest in marriage, now or ever. He doesn’t want a wife. He doesn’t want children. He’s looking for a fun, reliable relationship with no strings attached. Often, a man like that will use a phrase like “friends, with benefits.”
Or, he”ll laugh and — especially if other, single men are around — joke, “Marriage is an institution, and I’m not ready for an institution yet.”
At the other extreme, his eyes will narrow. (He thinks it looks sexy.) Then, he’ll coo, “Sure, baby. I want to get married real soon.” An R-rated caress usually follows.
If you’re looking for a husband, this is the wrong guy to date. You want a man with integrity, whose goals that match yours, and someone who’s on a similar timetable, as well.
Commitment issues can be a problem. Here’s one explanation of why some men are afraid of relationships, and what you can do about it.
I have never met a potential date who was offended when I asked him, flat out, whether or not he was looking for a wife.
If he wasn’t, there were no arguments or hurt feelings. We cheerfully agreed not to date but remain friends.
So, despite all the warnings that the “M” word will scare the guy, I think it’s smart to discuss the subject before you schedule your first date… or certainly before the second or third date.
You’re simply establishing the ground rules. You’re not even in a relationship yet, so there’s no pressure. It’s all intellectual, not personal.
Of course, the man could change his mind. Or, once you’ve dated, either of you could decide it’s not a match.
However, at the start, you know you share mutual goals and timetables. That’s important.
Here’s one relationship counselor’s viewpoint:
If you’re already in a relationship, it can be difficult to ask about marriage. Maybe you don’t want marriage yet, either, but you want to be sure you’re not investing time and emotions in a relationship that’s going nowhere.
It can be awkward to ask, but sometimes it’s better to clear the air.
Here’s a pep talk to help you ask the important questions:
Here’s a man’s viewpoint on this issue, too:
When you do have that discussion, here are some tips about what to watch (and watch out) for:
(Her timetable is echoed in the video at this article: When Will He Propose?)
Finally, here’s Dr. Phil showing the truth of one man’s marriage phobias.
And here’s what happened after the show.
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When Will He Propose?
When will he propose?
If it doesn’t happen in the first year and a half, the answer may be: Never.
Here’s advice from a panel of men — single, taken, and married — about marriage proposals. I think it’s a good range of attitudes, to help you understand your man and whether or not it’s a serious relationship.
In this discussion, they also talk about what not to do — like an ultimatum — if you’re wondering when (and if) he’ll ever propose to you.
However, before you take that advice seriously, here’s something else to look at. Recent research has found some unexpected core issues that prevent wonderful couples from reaching the altar.
Even if you’re in a long-term relationship of many years, and it seems hopelessly stalled, you can reach “happily ever after.”
Before you throw in the towel on your relationship (despite what’s said in the previous video), take a look at the free video presentation, Girl Gets Ring. It’s an actual lesson that could answer all your questions, right away. It’s not a short video, and — if you’re like me — you’ll probably want to take notes.
However, before you decide that the answer to “When will he propose?” is “Never,” you owe it to yourself and your relationship to see what T. Dub Jackson says in his Girl Gets Ring video.
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The Kate Middleton Engagement Ring Replica by The Bradford Exchange
If you’re going to wear a replica of the lovely royal engagement ring — worn by Princess Diana and then by Kate Middleton, Prince William’s wife — it should be a really good replica.
For that, you want something from the Bradford Exchange. They’ve built a strong reputation for quality over many years. This replica is one of the most convincing and authentic ever made. The blue stone reflects the depth of the original, as well as the deep and abiding love you share with your spouse-to-be.
Kate’s engagement ring is absolutely lovely, and the design is one that every bride-to-be will admire.
The stones in this magnificent replica total more than 5 carats. That’s large, but still tasteful. Though these are Diamonesk replicas, not actual sapphires and diamonds, few people will know the difference.
In fact, many people prefer gemstones like these. These replicas are denser than natural diamonds, are extremely hard and durable, and — the most important part — they’re flawless.
Here’s what Amazon says about this lovely, romantic ring:
The engagement of longtime loves Prince William and Kate Middleton has been received with elation from around the globe.
The engagement ring, first made famous by William’s mother Princess Diana, makes a statement that not only honors Diana’s memory but gracefully represents William and Kate’s royal romance. Now, you can wear the style of a royal beauty.
Sale Price:$99.00
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14k White or Yellow Gold Princess-Cut Solitaire Engagement Ring
If you’re looking for a simple, classic, elegant engagement ring, this is a very smart purchase.
Many of today’s brides want a princess-cut diamond ring. It’s an ideal cut for a sparkling ring the bride will wear daily, with all the features you want in a diamond, and none you don’t.
Shape
Diamonds are cut in different shapes, and most have 57 or 58 tiny facets.
The most popular diamond shape is the “brilliant” cut, the classic, round diamond. However, since the princess cut was developed in the early 1960s, princess-cut diamonds been gaining popularity rapidly and may soon overtake the brilliant as the world’s most favorite diamond shape.
The princess cut is a favorite among many diamond cutters and gemologists, because it retains about 80% of the original, rough diamond. The brilliant cut has to sacrifice about 50% of the original.
This princess-cut diamond’s cut is graded “very good,” which is second only to the hard-to-find “excellent” cut.   Many people prefer the “very good” grade because the stone can be more sturdy. Diamonds are among the hardest materials on earth, but it’s still smart to wear a ring with a diamond that’s not too thin. (The “excellent” cut stones are the thinnest.)
Color
Diamond colors range alphabetically from D to Z. “D” diamonds have no color at all. They’re very rare.
“Z” diamonds range from dark to murky. Few jewelers work with stones in that color range, except for special design purposes.
Somewhere in-between, diamonds around H to J are considered among the most beautiful. They have a hint of warmth while still looking very white and sparkling. In other words, they have “fire” in them, without looking off-color.
This princess engagement ring has a diamond in the treasured I to J range.
White gold or yellow?
White gold is the term for real gold that includes an alloy that gives it a silvery color. Some jewelers take this even further with rhodium plating, to enhance the white gold effect.
In most cases, white gold will remain a silver color forever.
However, this can vary with the individual’s skin chemistry, the soap she uses (if she keeps the ring on while cleaning or in the hot tub), any abrasion to the ring, and so on.
In rare cases, the yellow gold color can become more noticeable. To restore the very bling-y white gold appearance, ask any local jeweler to apply rhodium plating to the yellow gold area. That will restore it to a “like new” sparkling finish.
White gold is treasured for its durability and value. It’s also the gold of choice for brides who want to wear other jewelry that’s silver-colored, whether white gold, silver, stainless steel, or titanium.
This ring is also available in yellow gold, for those who prefer the truly classic gold color. 14k gold is excellent because it doesn’t scratch or wear down, as some softer golds can — especially 24k, rarely used in rings.
In either gold, your bride will cherish this ring and the love it symbolizes.
This is a lovely ring at a price about half what you’d pay at most jewelry stores, for an identical ring.
Here’s what Amazon says:
Choose a classic, elegant look with this princess-cut diamond solitaire engagement ring.
A single princess-cut diamond (1/4 cttw) is held aloft in a secure four-prong setting and centered on a sleek tapered polished gold band.
Sale Price:$329.00
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