Fear of commitment seems to be a huge problem preventing marriage. It’s not just guys who have commitment issues. Women worry about commitment, too.
Let’s start with the stereotypes, and how damaging they can be.
Men fear commitment
One reason men fear commitment is social conditioning. Seriously, they get all kinds of bad advice (and terrible role models) from TV shows and movies.
Remember that movie, The Bachelor? All those brides chasing the character played by Chris O’Donnell… that’s an iconic image, and one of many that reinforce the idea that men are running from marriage. That’s what Real Men do… right?
However, that movie (preview below) is such a classic example of the stereotype presented to men, it’s worth studying.
Movies like that — where your date probably identifies with the handsome male lead — reinforce everything he’s ever learned about looking like “a real man” by acting-out his fear of commitment.
It’s not healthy, and it can be difficult to overcome if you don’t understand the real roots of commitment phobias.
Fear of commitment in women
Women fear commitment, too. Men don’t have a monopoly on marriage phobia.
Women worry that he’s not the right kind of man for a successful marriage. Is he really read to be faithful to you, long term? Will that “seven-year itch” mean divorce? Will yours be one of the 41% to 50% of first marriages that fail? (Or, if this is a second or third marriage for either of you, will yours be among the 60% to 74% that end in divorce?)
With women, the fears aren’t only about marriage. They also worry about children: Whether he wants any, and how responsible he’ll be, as a dad.
Most women don’t want to press the issue of children, but it’s always there, and they worry that Mr. Right won’t agree with their family goals. It’s an unspoken issue that can cause tremendous fear of commitment in women.
It’s not that women don’t want to commit to a marriage; they’re simply afraid they’ve picked the wrong guy. It’s made worse when he’s following the stereotype, acting phobic about popping the question or even talking about the future. The bride-to-be is afraid to ask important questions like: Do you want children, and how many? Do you expect me to continue working, or be a stay-at-home mom?
That’s the tip of the iceberg.
The truth is, everyone is afraid of commitment. They’re worried about picking the right marriage partner. They’re also worried about selecting the best subject to major in, in college. They’re concerned about saying “yes” to the right job offer, and buying the right house.
These are all long-term commitments, and a person would be a little crazy not to be anxious about making the right decision.
However, those commitment worries will linger until you realize what’s behind them. There are very specific ways to overcome commitment phobias, and they’re simple to solve… if you know what to look for, what questions to ask, and the kinds of answers each of you need.
That’s where the Girl Gets Ring system comes in. The good news is, you don’t need to spend a cent. You’re going to discover some important answers to commitment issues in the free — no commitment — video lesson at this link: Girl Gets Ring.
Watch what T. Dub Jackson explains in that video. I think you’re going to be absolutely amazed. You’ll also find a hefty dose of relief when you see how simple it is to overcome his fears of commitment as well as your own.