How Will I Get Him to Propose?
'Getting' him to propose is as easy as herding cats.
If you’re wondering how you’ll get him to propose, stop right there.
The fact is, you can’t get him to do anything he doesn’t want to. Not now. Not after you’re married. Never.
You can’t get him to stop wearing his “lucky socks” to the game. You can’t get him to take out the trash. You can’t get him to quit talking to an old girlfriend. And, you can’t get him to propose.
Instead of asking “How will I get him to propose?”, you should ask, “What’s preventing him from proposing?”
You need to help him overcome the barriers that prevent him from doing what he really wants to do: Marry you.
The answer may be more deeply hidden than you expect. It’s not just his fear of commitment. It’s why he’s worried about commitment, about marriage, and maybe about you.
There are things he’s worrying about, and they’re buried deep in his subconscious. He couldn’t even tell you this stuff if you asked him… unless you already knew what to ask.
The wrong questions will drive him further away. In fact, it could lead to a really ugly conversation that leaves both of you angry, and perhaps even makes you break up, permanently.
Before you throw in the towel, or — worse — try to pry into his tangled logic about marriage, please go watch the free Girl Gets Ring video. Yes, it really is free, and it’s not a sales pitch. T. Dub Jackson gives you enough useful information to make a big difference in your relationship right away. (It’s not some stupid teaser. This is information that other people charge big bucks for, and he’s giving it away. He’s launched a “million marriage crusade,” and he seriously wants to help a million couples get married.)
Your guy probably wants to get married as much as you do. He’s probably as deeply in love as you are, whether he’ll admit it or not.
He’s trapped by stereotypes, insecurities, and things he needs to hear from you, but he doesn’t know what to ask.
The free Girl Gets Ring video will explain that to you, and show you exactly what to do next.
Before you watch that video, pour yourself a cup of coffee. Grab a pen and some notepaper. It’s a long video and you’re going to want to take notes. I don’t mean you should take notes… I mean, as soon as you hear what T. Dub explains about men and getting him to propose, you’re going to practically climb across the keyboard to learn more. You’ll want to take notes… lots of them. (I took six pages of notes, the first time I watched that video.)
Yes, it takes a guy to explain this stuff. No woman is likely to figure this out on her own. Seriously. The logic… it sort of makes sense, when you look at it, but really… nobody tells you this stuff about men, marriage and commitment.
T. Dub is going to explain what’s buried under all that macho nonsense about “fear of commitment” and staying single. Once you really understand this, you won’t even need to ask your guy what it’ll take to get him to propose.
You’ll already have the answers. You’ll already know exactly what to say, and how to assure him so your man is comfortable proposing to you. It’ll seem like the logical thing to do, and like you read his mind.
There’s nothing manipulative about this. Forget playing games or acting “hard to get” or giving him an ultimatum. Those don’t work.
The Girl Gets Ring approach is based on 100% honesty… and it’s that honesty that will get you both to the altar, together, and taking your next step to “happily ever after.”
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The Truth About Girl Gets Ring
Girl Gets Ring is a system that says it shares “the secrets that will get him from ‘Hello’ to ‘I Do’ faster than you could ever imagine.”
It’s designed to help you earn virtually any man’s total devotion, and his enthusiastic commitment to you and your future together.
Is that a realistic claim? Let’s take a look at what’s required.
First, you need to stop blaming yourself for what’s happened in the past.
Next, if you’re in a relationship that’s been stalled for years, and you’re only staying with him because it’s “better than being alone,” you need to throw him back. You can do better. Really.
You’ll also need to let go of any idea that the delay is about your looks, your age, your weight, your family, your education, or how busy you are.
That isn’t the problem, and it never has been. Any guy who’s using those as excuses… the problem is his, not yours.
Frankly, either you connect on a deep emotional level or you don’t. That’s how Girl Gets Ring helps you: It shows you the tried-and-true way to make that important connection. Whether you haven’t met Mr. Right yet, or you’re in a stalled relationship that just hasn’t led to the altar, Girl Gets Ring will show you exactly what to do next.
Finally, you need to relax and accept that this could be easier than you ever expected. Girl Gets Ring isn’t some “magic pill” that will do all the work for you. Instead, it’s a system that exposes the lies you’ve been taught about men and relationships, and reveals the basics that can always work with any normal, healthy guy.
Once you understand the four core feelings that drive every man to want closeness and commitment, and what will scare him off, the rest is natural. In fact, it’s fun.
So, forget about playing “hard to get.” In fact, banish any advice you’ve been given about manipulating guys or pretending to be someone you’re not. That hasn’t worked in the past, and it may have sabotaged some of your best, past relationships.
You can get to “I do!” with your integrity intact. You’re not tricking him in any way. In fact, the Girl Gets Ring system may be the simplest, most honest way to build a “happily ever after” relationship.
There are several steps to the Girl Gets Ring system. If you follow them, you might easily reach your goal of getting the ring.
But… are you really ready to take that first step?
Even before you start the Girl Gets Ring system, be sure you’re ready for a commitment. Otherwise, this could backfire. If anything, Girl Gets Ring works too well, and it can work pretty darned quickly.
Maybe you’re one of those women whose friends complain about men. You’re right there with them, agreeing that most men are jerks, and sighing you can’t find the right guy.
But — even if Mr. Right showed up on your doorstep — maybe you’re not really ready to settle down. If that sounds like you, you’re not ready for the Girl Gets Ring system.
It can’t be just, “Well… maybe… if the right guy comes along. The tall, handsome, rich one who’s never been married, has never had kids, has a great sense of humor, and thinks I’m the only woman for him. I might be willing to marry him. Maybe.”
(And — be honest — if he did show up in your life, would you be a little nervous, wondering if he’s too good to be true?)
You’re also wasting your time and his if your attitude toward marrying him is, “Sure, why not.” You don’t need another relationship that’s only slightly better than being alone.
You have to be ready for marriage, and everything that goes with it.
I don’t mean that your biological clock is ticking and you figure you’d better get married and have kids now, or it might be too late.
I mean: You know you’re ready for marriage. You’re ready to settle down with one guy and journey through life together, hand in hand.
Next, you need to know what you’re looking for. The guys you hang out with might be good for laughs, but… are any of those men reliable enough to be a husband and father? Take a good, hard look at each of them. There might be a diamond hidden among them, in more ways than one.
After that, don’t think you just need to reel him in. You need a system that takes you, step by step, through the stages of a relationship that will lead to marriage.
If you rush things, act fake, or try to manipulate him, he might run out the door and never look back. Don’t make that mistake!Â
Get the right kind of advice.
You could get advice from your mom or your married friends. If you do, make sure you’re getting advice from someone in a happy marriage. (Just because she says she’s happy… well, that might not be true. It could be just her own, rose-colored view of marriage.)
Also, make sure you’d like the kind of relationship that person has. We’ve all met people who seem “happy enough,” but what they do is argue almost all the time. It’s as if they like to disagree with each other. (Some will even admit that they do, if only because the “making up” part is so much fun.)
Do you really want a marriage like that? Probably not.
You could ask married and single men for their advice. Chances are, you’ll get some reactions you didn’t have in mind.
And frankly, your dad’s advice is from a different era. It might be helpful, or it might lead to relationship disaster.
So… who can you turn to? It’s difficult to know who to trust.
That’s why T. Dub Jackson and Jonathan Green put together their system, Girl Gets Ring.Â
Who is T Dub, anyway?
“T Dub” (T.W. Jackson) is a relationships expert. His recent best-seller was “The Magic of Making Up.” I don’t know how many copies it sold, but it became the gold standard for fixing broken relationships. Last time I looked, the Magic of Making Up had saved over 6,500 relationships. That’s pretty good.
Here’s part of an article based on the Magic of Making Up, sharing advice for getting back together after a really bad breakup:
Your best bet is to talk about everything that happened and led to the break up in the first place. Until you understand each other and how each one thinks, there will be no point in trying to get back together because your relationship will only end in disaster again. Do not play games or try to trick your ex into coming back to you. Doing this will only deepen the hurt and distrust.
Be friends before you two jump right back into being in a relationship. Date, hang out, have some fun, just learn to be together before things get serious again. Keeping things casual for the first few weeks will give you both time to readjust to the other person and let you ease back into a relationship.
I’ll bet you know people who’ve broken every rule in that advice… and then they can’t figure out why their ex- won’t take them back. (Maybe you should show them this article.)
That kind of advice is typical of what you’ll find in Girl Gets Ring… except that Girl Gets Ring is written for single women who want marriage.
For this system, T Dub teamed with Jonathan Green.
Learn from a top dating coach, too.
T Dub has been a respected relationships expert for many years. He’s also been married for over 16 years. So, it made sense for him to team with someone who’s in the dating field right now, and knows the ins and outs of online dating, the club scene, and negotiating that tricky first date.
That’s where Jonathan Green comes in. He’s a world-renowned dating coach who knows exactly what’s going on, in today’s dating scene.
Between Jonathan’s insights and T Dub’s expertise, Girl Gets Ring can deliver the quickest, easiest and smartest way to the relationship you deserve.
Can it work for you?
If your past dating efforts have failed, you need a different plan.
You know when he says, “It’s not you, it’s me,” and dumps you…?
Well, he’s right. It’s not you. It really is him!
The problem is, underneath that panicky, commitment-phobic exterior is a guy who actually wants a deep, committed and loving relationship. He might even want that with you.Â
He just doesn’t understand what he’s feeling. He senses that something’s not right in the relationship, but he doesn’t realize what it is.
Girl Gets Ring is the answer you need. It’s the first non-pushy, non-manipulative method that allows you to be yourself, while helping your man overcome his anxieties about relationships.
It’s not therapy. It’s about getting past the games and the facades. Girl Gets Ring will show you how to connect, easily and quickly, even on that important first date.
And, if you’re dating online, it’ll show you the seven biggest mistakes women make with online dating. You know… the things you say in your profile that seem to attract the psychos, sickos, and womanizers.
You’ve already wasted too much precious time, following “the rules” that don’t really work.
Everything can change for you, almost overnight, once you know the four things that really matter to men. They’re the same things that will help him see you as the most wonderful woman he’s ever been with, or will ever be with.
In other words, he’ll want a supportive, connected relationship with you, and he’ll take the initiative to get there.
The truth about Girl Gets Ring system is this:Â It’s the first system of its kind, it’s radically simple, and it’s the only one you’ll ever need to connect with Mr. Right and, hand in hand, move towards marriage and a lifetime of happiness, together.
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Your First Date – It's Not an Interview
Do you struggle to get a second date?  Do men seem to be interested in you, but after a date or two, they suddenly act distant?
It’s not you, it’s them.
Really. It’s not your glasses, your weight, your age, or your cellulite. It’s not even the fact that you’re a single mom, or that your clothes are out-of-style. Do you snort when you laugh really hard? That’s not going to be a deal-breaker.
Buying the latest phone or tablet or reader won’t help. Nor will botox, piercings, or a tattoo.
And don’t even think about a butt lift, a tummy tuck, or breast implants.
It’s not you. It’s the men. I mean it.
You and I have been given some very bad advice. At every grocery store cash register, magazines tell us how to lose weight, be better in bed, play hard-to-get, dress for success, or look like the air-brushed sex goddess on the magazine cover… as if that’s going to summon Mr. Right and make him fall in love with us.
Seriously. Did Prince Charming really marry Cinderella because her foot was the right size for that glass slipper? Was the guy not bright enough to recognize her a second time, as soon as he saw her?
The messages women get… they’re toxic. They make us think we need to change ourselves like chameleons, play relationship games, and generally manipulate our guy to “land” him like he’s a fish.
Please. That’s not honest and that’s not romance, either.
But, it’s what we were taught, by our parents and grandparents, by the media and by the kids we went to school with. All the messages were: Become the girl he wants you to be, and he’ll fall in love with you.
So, you go out on a date. You pretend to be interested in the same things he’s interested in. You listen attentively as he talks, listening for cues about the woman he wants.
You ask about his career plans, whether he belongs to a gym, where he lives and if he has roommates. You might question him about his parents and siblings, and — if they have jobs — what they do.
At some point in the conversation, he stops feeling like you’re interested in his interests. It sounds more like you’re interviewing him for the job of husband.
He’s looking for love and companionship. He’s looking for a deep emotional connection, and that spark of something he thought he saw in your eyes when you met.
The problem is, nobody told you that men really do want commitment and intimacy.
Your ever-so-casual, interview-style conversation is exactly what he doesn’t want. In fact, that’s probably why he doesn’t call you after that first date.
At this point, you’re wondering what you should say on your first date… and your second… and your third.
It comes down to honesty. That’s a big part of it.
However, you also need to unlearn a lot of dating and relationship rules you probably take for granted. Replace it with a deeper understanding of what’s really going on with men.
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Dating – When You’ve Made a Big Mistake
In every relationship, there’s usually a time when one (or both) of you realize you’ve made a mistake. Maybe a big mistake.
It could be something obvious, like he forgot your birthday. Or, it could be the time he saw you hugging another guy after you’d had one too many drinks at a party.
He might have gone on a date with an old girlfriend, and — though nothing happened and he’s glad he’s with you, instead — he still feels guilty that he never told you about it.
Or, maybe he pretended to be richer than he is, or you acted as if your job was more important than it is, and there’s been no easy way to explain how that happened.
Whether they’re big indiscretions or “little white lies,” they can hit your relationship hard. In fact, they can kill the romance dead.
The big question is: Can you get past that?
Stephen Covey (the “7 Habits” guy) talks about the emotional bank account. It’s important to be sure it’s never overdrawn. If you make a mistake, you do something to make up for it.
But… what do you do when it’s a big mistake. A really big one? And, what do you do when you suspect that the man in your life is hiding a big, painful secret?
Is there a way to put so much back into that emotional bank account, it’s the equivalent of a massive lottery win?
The answer is yes.
It all comes down to honesty.Â
That doesn’t mean you should rush into a detailed confession that will send him running out the door. Nor should you nag, push and prod him into his own confession. In fact, that’s such a certain way to kill a relationship beyond any hope of saving it, you may as well keep your secrets and part friends.
I’m talking about a different kind of honesty, the kind where you’re being authentic in your relationship. No faking. No manipulating. No pretenses. No deception, and no more “little white lies.”
He wants to be your superhero, and he needs to feel that you appreciate him for that. It’s as simple as that.
However, where you are now in the relationship… it may not seem all that “simple” to get your romance back on track.  Most magazine articles and relationship books will give you perfectly awful advice.
Guilt is a terrible thing, but now may not be the best time to bare your soul. Or, if you suspect him of doing something wrong, cornering him and forcing the truth out of him… that’s a really bad idea.
I can recommend a step-by-step course that can turn your relationship around, almost immediately. It even includes something called the “clean slate method” that’s as close to a mistake-eraser as it gets.
When I tell you that it’s called the Girl Gets Ring system, you may roll your eyes. You might feel that you’re far away from marriage and “happily ever after,” and you’ve read enough articles and books about how to manipulate your guy into a proposal, thank you very much.
Well, it’s not that kind of system. In fact, it’s pretty much one-of-a-kind. It’s a non-manipulative, non-pushy way to bring honesty and romance into your relationship. And, with that foundation… well, it’s the quickest, easiest, and smartest way to built the kind of loving relationship you deserve.
If you’re one step away from breaking up, you need this book and the audios that go with it. If your relationship has become so empty, you’re wondering if it really is “better than being alone,” you need the Girl Gets Ring system.
Getting engaged and married may seem nearly impossible, based on how your relationship is right now.
However, I can promise you this:Â Girl Gets Ring can revive your relationship.
Don’t give up on your relationship until you’ve tried it. You’re minutes away from beginning to restore the romance you once shared.
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While You Wait – Storing Your Wedding Gown
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Many women buy a wedding gown ahead of time, because it reinforces their determination to be a bride… soon! Others buy their gown when they see the perfect one, especially if it’s on sale.
If you buy your gown early, it’s probably best to store your wedding gown at your parents’ home. The guy is likely to feel rushed to the altar if he sees it in your closet every day.
In fact, it’s generally best not to mention the waiting wedding gown at all. It could be a little scary to a guy who’s still in “not ready to settle down” mode.
Like fur storage services, there are companies — usually associated with dry cleaners — who will safely store your wedding gown for you… for a fee.
A far better choice is to buy a hanging storage bag for your gown. For the price of one month’s storage with a specialized service, you can store your wedding gown safely, yourself.
Here are the features you’re looking for.
- Breathable – Dry cleaner’s bags and plastic storage bags are a bad idea. The plastic can off-gas and turn your gown from white or ivory into an uneven cream-to-yellow color. It can look water-stained, or worse.
- Acid-free -All storage bags are not created equal. Some fibers contain chemicals that make them acidic. Instead, make sure your storage bag is acid-free. Then, your gown won’t yellow, it won’t dry out, and it won’t develop a strange odor before that magical day.
- Big and roomy – Many wedding gowns have huge, voluminous skirts. Even if you could iron them, you wouldn’t want to. However, many can only be pressed with a specialized steamer. The tulle or satin flowers can go limp with the heat. All in all, you don’t want anything to crease or flatten your gown. So, make sure the bag is big enough to store your wedding gown without flattening it.
- Side gussets – No matter how big the storage bag looks, if it’s made to hang flat like an envelope, it’s still likely to crush your gown and its train.
- White – Many clothing storage bags are black, gray, or a color. Assuming you’ve chosen a breathable, fiber storage bag, those colored fibers can get on your wedding gown. It can take forever to pick all the little threads and flecks off your gown. So, be sure to get a white bag to store your gown for that special day.
- Flat, paneled bottom – You’ll want this so you can carefully fold (back & forth, back & forth) the train of your wedding gown. (Tip: Where it might fold, support the train with crumpled, acid-free, white tissue paper. Many gift shops and greeting card stores carry that kind of archival tissue paper. With the folds supported, you won’t have creases in the train when you get ready to wear your gown.)
- Full-length zipper – You might be surprised by how many clothing storage bags have a zipper that’s only two or three feet long. Forcing your gown into the bag through that opening, and then removing it…? That’s likely to press wrinkles into your dress. Make sure the bag has a full-length zipper.
- Washable – After your wedding, you may want to keep your gown in case your daughter wants to wear it — for sentimental reasons — when she gets married. After your own wedding, you’ll probably have your gown cleaned. It’s a good idea to wash your storage bag, too. That prevents it from smelly musty as soon. (Tip: Do not use fabric softener or a dryer sheet if you dry it in the clothes dryer. The chemicals in those products can leave a fragrance, or non-archival off-gassing in the bag.)
So far, I’ve only found one garment storage bag that meets all of those qualifications. It’s the X-Large Breathable Wedding Gown Bag.
Additional tips:
- Make sure the hanger is sturdy enough, and well-padded. You might be amazed at the weight of a wedding gown with beading, or a cathedral-style train, or both.
- If you do have a cathedral-style train with your wedding gown, and it’s removable (they usually are), get a second bag to store it separately. Never try to overstuff a wedding gown bag. For the low cost of most wedding gown bags, order two and make sure your gown and train won’t get wrinkled or flattened, while they’re stored.
How to safely place your wedding gown into the storage bag
- Unzip the bag and spread it out on the floor.
- Place a white, 100% cotton bed sheet inside it, so the ends of the sheet are draped outside the bag, covering the zipper on each side.
- Carefully place your gown inside the bag. Be sure it’s not too tightly folded (see my tissue paper suggestion, above), and as smooth as possible.
- Fold the sheet over the gown, protecting it from the zipper on each side.
- Zip the bag.
- Hang it up.
Here’s the only wedding gown bag I recommend:
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What to Do When He’s ‘Just Not That Into You’
Do you know the signs that he’s “just not that into you”?
Do you know how to get your relationship unstuck and moving towards marriage?
A lot of women’s magazines will tell you to play “hard to get.” They explain that, if he thinks he might lose you, he’ll come to his senses and do everything he can to make you happy again.
…WRONG ANSWER!
Others will tell you to make yourself more attractive: Lose a few pounds. Change your hairstyle or hair color. Update your wardrobe. Learn some new moves to increase his pleasure when you’re alone.
… MORE WRONG ANSWERS!
When you were first dating, you followed “the rules” you thought would work. You asked him about his career. You pretended to be interested in his hobbies. You paid close attention to the cues he sent about what he likes in a woman, and you did your best to become that woman.
But somehow, at the end of each date, you always felt like you’d missed something important. That deep connection was almost there, but not quite.
Weeks, months, or even years later, you feel like you’re the one doing all the work in the relationship… and he’s still putting on the brakes when it comes to commitment.
Seriously, do you think you can keep all of that up after you’re married (if he ever proposes), and maintain the house, cook the meals, take the kids to ballet classes and soccer, and maybe hold down a job, too?
Yes, it’s reality-check time.
You’ve been a sucker for media manipulation. Magazines and TV shows have played on your insecurities. They’ve given you bad advice, just so you’ll buy the next issue (or watch the next show) to learn what you’re not doing right.
It’s not about faking it. Not in terms of your interests, and not in bed.
It’s not about your weight. It’s not about your job, or how busy you are. It’s not about your age or the pressure of your biological clock. It’s not even about those bouts of PMS.
It’s about him, and the four core feelings that make him feel conflicted, inside, without ever telling you what’s going on.
Why is he doing that? Because he doesn’t even know he’s sabotaging himself. In fact, he probably set the trap — the one that prevents him from finding the deep emotional connection he wants — on the very first date… and he hasn’t a clue what he did wrong.
Now it’s your turn to put on the brakes. Take a deep breath, and find better answers.
Fortunately, the answers are easy to find if you know where to look. And, you can fix your broken relationship, bring romance back into your life, and have fun at the same time.
Girl Gets Ring is the system you’re looking for.
You won’t have to be pushy. You won’t be playing hard-to-get. You won’t pretend to be someone you’re not. And, it won’t cost you an arm and a leg, the way some dating sites do.
This system is going to bring honesty back into your relationship. It can change the very second you begin using the quick-start tips in the Girl Gets Ring system.
Get ready for your man to do a double-take, like he’s seeing you with fresh eyes. Expect him to pause, and ask himself why he didn’t see the real you — the wonderful woman he wants to be with — until now.
This system is going to get him past his fears of commitment… the same worries that have ruined his past relationships and made him almost lose you, too.
No manipulation is required. No silly game-playing, and no ridiculous scripts that sound as fake as they are.
Girl Gets Ring is the way to start fresh in your relationship, with a level of honesty that’s going to be a breath of fresh air for both of you.
Click here to see the long, helpful, free video lesson.
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Choose the Best Wedding Gown
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Are you ready for a wedding gown? Some brides buy their gowns long before they’ve found Mr. Right. Others wait until they’re engaged, and a few wait until the last minute… just in case.
I’m in favor of buying the gown a couple of weeks after he proposes and you’ve accepted. It becomes part of the series of steps from engagement to the altar.
You’ll need to make a few decisions before you look at bridal gowns.
- Modest or wowza, or somewhere in-between – Wedding gowns can be demure or revealing, strapless or discreet, floor length or mini, and form-fitting or voluminous, with plenty of variations. Consider where the wedding will be held (church, garden, or somewhere else), the weather, and how your extended families will feel (and how well they’ll welcome you) if you make a surprising choice. (On the other hand, it is your wedding. Wear what you want to.)
- Synthetic or natural fibers – Synthetics are usually less expensive, but they may not age well if you’re planning to keep your gown for your daughters to wear at their weddings. On the other hand, they’re less likely to need ironing on the big day. Natural fibers usually store better, but the price tag on a silk gown can be 10x the price of a similar gown of nylon or microfiber.
- White, off-white, or a color – Most brides choose a white or ivory gown if its their first wedding, even if the couple have been living together or have children. Many brides wear white or off-white for a second or third wedding, too. Today, it’s your decision, and some brides — usually of the Goth persuasion — even wear black.
- Train or no train – Whether your gown should have a train, and how long it should be, is something to consider ahead of time. In most cases, the train will be removable, so you can dance without it at your wedding reception. Consider where you wedding will be, and how smooth the surface is. A garden path or a rough-hewn church floor can snag a cathedral-style train. However, you can rent a white (or red or other color) satin or carpet-style walkway, no matter where the wedding will be. And, you can always have bridesmaids or flower girls carry the train for you, so it doesn’t drag (and perhaps snag on something unexpected).
- Gloves or no gloves – If you’re wearing a strapless or sleeveless gown, gloves can add a nice formality to your appearance. However, if you choose gloves — especially full-length gloves that extend above your elbows — make sure you can remove them easily and quickly, so your groom can place the ring on your finger.
- Veil or no veil – A veil can be lovely, or an inconvenience. It’s a matter of style and personal taste. If you’re wearing a strapless gown, a veil can make it look more like a wedding gown and less like a white prom dress. On the other hand, if you’re wearing a voluminous wedding gown, a massive veil can make you look a little hefty or give a “too much trimming” impression.
- Wings? I’m not kidding. At one of the loveliest weddings I’ve attended, the bride wore custom-made wings similar to the wings worn by Drew Barrymore at the pinnacle moment in the movie, Ever After. The wings completed the “fairy tale” effect of that happy day.
These are the main points to think about before browsing for a wedding gown.
Here’s one of my favorite wedding gowns, combining elegance and tradition with some modern details.
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